June 27, 2007

We convinced ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. (like some mu zhu .___. =P). Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire, etc.

The truth is there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when then?

Our life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to ourselves and decide to be happy anyway. For a long time we seems to think that our real life is about to start, but there are always some obstacles in the way. Something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served a dept to be paid, etc. only then would life begin. Until it dawns on us that these obstacles are part of life. This perspective has helped us to see that happiness is the way.

So treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared with people who are special, special enough to spend you time with. And remember that time waits for no one

So stop waiting until we finish sch, until we go back to sch, until we lose ten pounds, until we gain ten pounds, until we have kids, until out kids leave the house, until we retire, until we get married, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until we get a new car or home, (this is getting abit annoying..) until spring, until summer, until autumn, until winter, until we finish that paper, until our song comes on, until we’ve a drink, until we sobered up, until we die.. to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. It is good to have an end in every journey, but it is the journey that really matters in the end.

Life is a journey, not a destination. Life is about how we complete our journey, how we lead it with meaning and worthy values.

Taken from APEL book Temasek Poly.

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Quite often, people don’t lead they follow. Don’t act but react. Don’t make moral decisions on their own. They borrow values from those around them. Don’t control their emotions. They let it control them. Life by our convictions in spite of oppositions and obstacles in their lives.

.weiming
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